Emptying the Nest: How Parents are Helping their Kids Buy Homes

Diane Gogar • January 23, 2019

For parents who have the means to help their kids buy a home in today’s pricey environment, gifting money towards a down payment is one of the best way to do it.

In February 2018, the Financial Post ran a story about adults still living with their parents. The figures are staggering. The number of adults still living at Parents Inn—as the Post affectionately referred to it—is up 13.3 per cent since 2001. For reference, young adults living with a spouse or partner is down 14.6 per cent.

For many boomers who, through modern healthcare and better habits, have been given a second chance at a teenager’s existence (albeit with more money and less mobility), their kids are definitely cramping their style.

“I’m 66 years old,” says Steven James (not his real name), a retired mechanic from Oakville. “I didn’t work my butt off for the last 48 years to share my bathroom with my son.”

Steven’s not alone. Boomers across the country are done with multi-generational living. And it’s gotten to the point where they’re throwing money at the problem. Of Canadian parents recently polled by CIBC, 76 per cent would give their kids a financial boost to help them move out, get married or move in with a partner.

But these days, given the average price of a starter home and the state of employment for young people(the record low since 1976 was still over 10 per cent), it’s going to take more than just a “boost.”

If you’re in a position to help your kids buy a home (and help yourself reclaim your home), you have many options. But a gift—otherwise known as a living inheritance—is among the most sensible. Here are three reasons why:

1. Gifting money makes the most sense for tax reasons.

As a baby boomer, you’re in the middle of an unprecedented wealth transfer that CIBC capital markets estimatesto be in the range of $750 billion in cash, property and investment holdings. If you’re in the position to not need the money coming to you, that windfall will just amount to a big tax hit. However, if you were to turn around and gift it to your kids, it’s no longer a tax burden for you or them (unlike in the U.S., Canada has no gift tax). This Globe and Mail article delves into the long-term tax implications of gifting money: namely less for your kids to pay in estate tax when you die.

For all intents and purposes, gifting money is a way to take it off your books, without putting it on your kids’ books.

2. Gifting money makes the most sense for legacy reasons.

Shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves in three generations.

This old proverb neatly sums up what happens when large sums of money are passed down through a family. You’ve no doubt heard of wealthy heirs who finally get their hands on the family fortune, only to squander it away within a generation.

While you still have some control over where your money goes, gifting a portion of it towards the purchase of an appreciating asset for your children is sensible.

You won’t want to gift that money in the form of straight cash—it would be too easy for your kids to spend it haphazardly.

And you won’t want to gift a piece of property over to your kids. This is seen as a gift of assets “in-kind” and the Canada Revenue Agency will treat the transaction as if you sold the property at fair market value. You’ll be hit with a tax bill for 50 per cent of the capital gains, which could be substantial on an inherited property bought decades ago.

To gift the money for a real estate purchase, you’ll sign a letter confirming that the money is a gift and isn’t required to be paid back. On the morning of signing day, you’ll transfer the funds to your kid’s account (most primary lenders need to see money in the account before they complete the mortgage transaction).

3. Gifting money makes the most sense for legal reasons.

If you want to help your kids with their mortgage and you don’t have the liquidity to hand over a sizeable amount of cash, the other option is to co-sign or guarantee their mortgage. The problem with this approach is varying degrees of liability. By co-signing or guaranteeing the loan, you are assuming responsibility if things go wrong for your child if they can’t pay their mortgage. You can potentially be putting your financial future at stake.

In other words, you’d have to have the utmost objective confidence that there’s no risk of them defaulting on their mortgage.

Gifting a portion or all of the down payment, like gifting anything else, severs the tie you have with the money. None of it belongs to you, nor does the liability that comes with how it will be used.

But the best part of gifting your kids money to buy a home…

…will come when you are invited over for the first time and can see the fruits of all your labour: a better life for your children and their family.


This article was written by Dan Yurman and was originally published here on Canadian Mortgage Trends on March 13th 2018.

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Get Protection From A Pre-Approval

By Diane Gogar • March 5, 2025
There is no doubt about it, buying a home can be an emotional experience. Especially in a competitive housing market where you feel compelled to bid over the asking price to have a shot at getting into the market. Buying a home is a game of balancing needs and wants while being honest with yourself about those very needs and wants. It’s hard to get it right, figuring out what’s negotiable and what isn’t, what you can live with and what you can’t live without. Finding that balance between what makes sense in your head and what feels right in your heart is challenging. And the further you are in the process, the more desperate you may feel. One of the biggest mistakes you can make when shopping for a property is to fall in love with something you can’t afford. Doing this almost certainly guarantees that nothing else will compare, and you will inevitably find yourself “settling” for something that is actually quite nice. Something that would have been perfect had you not already fallen in love with something out of your price range. So before you ever look at a property, you should know exactly what you can qualify for so that you can shop within a set price range and you won’t be disappointed. Protect yourself with a mortgage pre-approval. A pre-approval does a few things It will outline your buying power. You will be able to shop with confidence, knowing exactly how much you can spend. It will uncover any issues that might arise in qualifying for a mortgage, for example, mistakes on your credit bureau. It will outline the necessary supporting documentation required to get a mortgage so you can be prepared. It will secure a rate for 30 to 120 days, depending on your mortgage product. It will save your heart from the pain of falling in love with something you can’t afford. Obviously, there is nothing wrong with looking at all types of property and getting a good handle on the market; however, a pre-approval will protect you from believing you can qualify for more than you can actually afford. Get a pre-approval before you start shopping; your heart will thank you. If you’d like to walk through your financial situation and get pre-approved for a mortgage, let’s talk. It would be a pleasure to work with you!

Is It the Right Time to Refinance? 5 Signs You Should Consider It

By Diane Gogar • February 27, 2025
Refinancing your mortgage can be a smart financial move, but how do you know if it’s the right time? Whether you’re looking to lower your monthly payments, access home equity, or consolidate debt, refinancing can offer valuable benefits. Here are five key signs that it might be the right time to refinance your mortgage in Canada. 1. Interest Rates Have Dropped One of the most common reasons Canadians refinance is to secure a lower interest rate. Even a small decrease in your mortgage rate can lead to significant savings over time. If rates have dropped since you took out your mortgage, refinancing could help you reduce your monthly payments and save thousands in interest. ✅ Tip: Check with your mortgage broker to compare your current rate with today’s market rates. 2. Your Financial Situation Has Improved If your credit score has increased or your income has stabilized since you first got your mortgage, you might qualify for better loan terms. Lenders offer lower rates and better conditions to borrowers with strong financial profiles. ✅ Tip: If you’ve paid off debts, improved your credit score, or increased your savings, refinancing could work in your favour. 3. You Want to Consolidate High-Interest Debt Carrying high-interest debt from credit cards, personal loans, or lines of credit? Refinancing can help consolidate those debts into your mortgage at a much lower interest rate. This can make monthly payments more manageable and reduce the overall cost of borrowing. ✅ Tip: Make sure the savings from refinancing outweigh any prepayment penalties or fees. 4. You Need to Free Up Cash for a Major Expense Many Canadians refinance to access their home’s equity for renovations, education costs, or major life expenses. With home values rising in many areas, a refinance could help you tap into that value while still keeping manageable payments. ✅ Tip: Consider a home equity line of credit (HELOC) if you need flexible access to funds. 5. Your Mortgage Term is Ending, and You Want Better Terms If your mortgage is up for renewal, it’s the perfect time to explore refinancing options. Instead of simply accepting your lender’s renewal offer, compare rates and terms to see if you can get a better deal elsewhere. ✅ Tip: A mortgage broker can help you shop around and negotiate better terms on your behalf. Is Refinancing Right for You? Refinancing isn’t always the best move—there can be penalties for breaking your current mortgage, and not all savings are worth the switch. However, if you relate to any of the five signs above, it’s worth discussing your options with a mortgage professional. Thinking about refinancing? Let’s chat and find the best option for you!
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